Redirection of Rejection

"Rejection is merely a redirection; a course correction to your destiny. "

Bryant McGill

Rejection. A word that many of us never want to hear and yet may have to experience at some point in our lives. The path to success is often sold to us as a process that we would consider as linear. From taking the initiative to make a change to landing that next big interview, we are conditioned to see ourselves moving forward as a one step in front of the next process. Many of us can attest to the fact that this is not always true.

There are so many other factors that can affect your path. From different learning opportunities to a realization that you may not really want to go down the path that you are currently moving in, success changes. It changes with perspective, with time and with influence - both inner and outer influences. As we all go through life, there is of course a time when we will make a suggestion, go for that interview or just put ourselves out there. Many people resort to the phrase, "Everything happens for a reason." While sometimes true, it can also take away from the importance of looking at why the rejection occurred in the first place. Let us investigate some tips where we can utilize these moments as a moments of light and learning.

Here are some tips you might want to think about: 1. Treat yourself with compassion:

We can all be hard on ourselves. Just say no to your inner critic and give yourself a chance to expand and explore other perspectives. That voice in our heads can be destructive and very rarely conducive to actual change. What works for some may not work for us, but time and patience are our best guiding factors in this process. Practice kindness towards ourselves rather than judgment. 2. You're actually pushing the boundaries: Never experiencing rejection may mean that you have never Rejection can simply mean you are pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone. Thinking outside of the box and going beyond your normal thought patterns can bring about resistance. Sometimes change can be the push we all need to finally accept our individuality. 3. Learning from your mistakes: Just remember that every moment is transient. Each day brings something different and if we learn to look within and adapt our perspective, we learn. As we learn, we grow, adapt and change. 4. Are you really rejecting yourself instead?

When experiencing a moment of rejection, are we really rejecting ourselves in the process? Perhaps a remark was made in passing and it was taken to heart. Self doubt can plant themselves in our mind at any age. As they plant themselves deeper within our psyche, we start to internalize these memories or stories even more. Thoughts such as "I am never good enough" can be unpacked and the root cause understood. Just remember that every moment is transient. Each day brings something different and if we learn to look within and adapt our perspective, rejection starts to looks just like redirection of our life path.

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